Hello readers,
I wanted to share my thoughts on the art of attraction in a relationship. Now, this is my opinion. I have not researched or studied what I am about to write. I was talking to a young man the other day and I forgot his name. He is 22 years old and looking to find his match or other half. Basically he is looking for love. We chatted for a few minutes about his unfortunate findings. Girls are just too judgmental, he said. I'm not very good at sympathizing with people on this matter. My first instinct is to say something along the lines of "So what, get over it. Not every girl is going to find you attractive" This guy I was talking to asked if I saw potential between the two of us. I though "hmm, this is awkward at just a few minutes in" My answer was no. So then I got the list of questions, is it because I'm too this and too that? Can't a girl have her reasons without you making her feel like a complete jerk. Please guys, do not ask these questions.
If someone is not interested it only makes sense to keep looking. Why would you want to be with someone who didn't find you attractive anyway? I often wonder why males and females spend so much time dwelling on the things they have no control over. I am 5 foot 9 inches (with heels a whopping 6 feet or more!) . I'm not super tall, but taller than average. There are tall people and short people and some lucky ones in between. Relationships can be very successful without height ever being an issue.
Like many girls, I had a list when I was younger (well, I still do) of traits I was going to look for in a future spouse. I believe that list comes later in life for guys. I hear guys all the time saying "I need a woman who respects me, who likes my mom, who can cook" or I hear "oh, she's too fat, tall, ugly". I hope they find that perfect someone. Here's the deal though, their perfect someone may have been called too fat or ugly for the last guy. Attraction can depend on so many factors. Also, this is just physical attraction and there is way more than the physical side of it.
What if relationships were like an NBA draft. We could all have our stats out there for everyone to judge us. We better hope that whoever gets first pick is attractive to us. Ridiculous, right? Height, age, weight, distance, religious beliefs, political views, family values, movie preference, food choice, do you get it? The list can go on and on.
Here is my advice. Find out what you want in this life and set goals to achieve it. Be confident in who you are and stop dwelling on things you can't change. Stand proud at 7 feet or 4'11 and a half. Be happy because happiness is contagious. If you are not happy it shows and although misery might love company, happy people usually run from the unhappy. Happy people are attractive. Wear a smile more often and show the world what you have to offer.
I can't leave you without a Bible verse. "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart" Psalm 37:4
